2021-02-19
Moving away can be a difficult decision, but in times of
social distancing can be even more. There’s even a term for that feeling: “Expat
guilt”, a sensation many expats experience when moving away from their friends
and family. Yes, moving away can be a difficult decision, but it might be the
right decision for you.
So, It’s important to realize that your guilt is unjustified. It’s unlikely that your friends and families are hating you for moving abroad. Think about why you moved away; chances are that you are happier now in a new situation than you were before. And there’s always room for you to stay close with those who look after you. There are so many ways you can get creative with how to do this!
Back to Basics
Conversations via Whatsapp or text messages is convenient, but can feel cold. Communicating in a different way can be much more personal and give you the chance to think about what you really want to talk to your friend or family member about. Maybe now’s the time to go old-fashion and send a real letter! Choose your loved ones and send them a postcard, a small gift or a heartfelt message like in the old days.
Together around the table
Just because you are away from your loved ones doesn’t mean you can’t spend meal times together. You can get together virtually through face-time or any video call app. Choose a recipe you’ll all enjoy ahead of time and call when you are ready to start cooking. This can also be a great way to find time on a busy schedule to talk as you would be using the time to cook and eat anyway.
Viewing Party
A fun new feature many streaming services are offering is
the option to watch a film in parallel to other people! You can play a film at
the same time and chat along while watching. This is a great way to spend time
with friends from afar, and especially if you’re too tired from a long day for
intense communication!
Consider that friendship is a two-way street and both
parties need to make an effort to stay connected. If you realize you aren’t as
close with someone as you used to be, don’t let the guilt come flooding back.
If you miss them, get back in touch, it’s as easy as calling them!
Don’t wallow in the past and what used to be, instead look
to the future, and allow yourself to be immersed in the anticipation of what is
to come.
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